Asperger Syndrome and Relationships
Life with an adult on the autism spectrum
Dr. Marshack’s blog postings are short and timely. She shares tips that make your complex relationships work better. She also posts questions because she wants to hear from you and share ideas. Bringing people together to help each other is one of her missions.
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Before you can accomplish the 7th step of the Interface Protocol (which is to apologize), you must first forgive yourself for your worst mistakes.
The holiday season is so important to me, and in this episode, I want to share with you the true meaning of Christmas.
Join me as I share about my tragic mistake and how I overcame it enough to forgive myself and become a Radiant Empathy Angel.
1:03 The True Meaning of Christmas: Forgive Yourself Your Worst Mistake and Share Your Love
2:36 Why I Love This Season
4:43 Apologies are Easier if You’ve Forgiven Yourself
6:35 Where I Learned to be a Professional Helper
9:03 I Had to Stop Blaming Myself
10:15 What Was My Tragic Mistake?
13:49 I Can Forgive Myself for What I Didn’t Know
17:31 The Least I Can Do
Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”
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In honor of the upcoming holiday, this episode is an ode to Thanksgiving and how Dr. Kathy’s family celebration for this holiday has a different historical root than others.
At the end of the day, you need to be very determined to be just who you are and to respect the different ways your loved ones communicate and live their lives.
We hope you have a warm and wonderful celebration with your loved ones this Thanksgiving!
1:02 Thanksgiving Episode
1:42 My Thanksgiving Story
3:55 Another Claim to Fame
4:59 To Be Authentic…
Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”
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It requires Empathy to take responsibility for your actions, and many NeuroDiverse people assume all is well just because they meant well.
Awarness can be a start BUT there is no substitute to being able to rise above one’s own feelings and really listen to the heart of another person.
Join Dr. Kathy in this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships where she dives into the topic, “Why is it so Hard for my ASD Partner to Take Responsibility for Their Actions?
1:01 Why is it so Hard for my ASD Partner to Take Responsibility for Their Actions?
2:54 Anticipate How Others Will Feel
5:37 When You’re Just Trying to Connect
6:25 Can Awareness Substitute for Empathy?
7:29 A Response to a Blog of Mine, “Empathy, ‘Asperger’ Style”
8:47 Taking Responsibility for Your Actions is a Moral Choice
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The brainwashing of Autistic abuse sneaks up on you, and once you tolerate even one act of terror, you adapt to the abuse and there’s little left of you to defend.
Join us in this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships as Dr. Kathy discusses the trauma induced by Autistic abuse and how to overcome it.
It may sound off, but being a proud trauma survivor is what saves you from the ravages of Autistic abuse and its aftermath – PTSD.
1:05 Autistic Abuse: The Trauma Induced by Autistic Meltdowns
1:19 A Quote From Maya Angelou
2:19 Feeling the Grief Again
4:36 Trapped by Brainwashing
7:08 Chronic Intermittent Abuse
8:18 What are the Right Questions to Ask?
10:59 Autists Must Confront Their Dark Side
16:29 Be a Proud Trauma Survivor
18:07 PTSD is a Normal Reaction to This Abuse
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In this episode entitled, “Part 2 of The Dark Side of ‘Asperger’s,’” I’m addressing the difficulty that people have talking about this problem.
No matter whether you’re NeuroDiverse or NeuroTypical, let’s talk about how to break free from the “shadow” and step outside of shame. Because you must first call attention to the problem before you can find a solution.
1:02 Part 2 of the dark side of “Asperger’s” – addressing the difficulty people have talking about this problem
1:54 A quote about the shadow self
2:40 Breaking free from the shadow
6:01 Enlightening webinars
7:51 How to step outside of the shame
Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”
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Not all NeuroDivergent Relationships are destructive, but in my personal experience, there’s a high percentage of destructive interactions that take place.
But, if you have Radiant Empathy and a strong moral code, you can stand up for yourself without harming others.
Join me for this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships entitled, “The Dark Side of “Asperger’s,” and we’ll talk about how to cope.
1:00 The dark side of Asperger’s
1:23 Moving on is not the answer
3:04 How to cope: develop radiant empathy and have a strong moral code
4:12 A quote from Sun Tzu, a famous Chinese author
4:51 It takes courage to do the right thing
5:18 I had a warning in a dream
11:52 I will never be able to move on
12:20 I can take heart in helping others in ND Relationships
14:07 Stand up, speak out, and talk back
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This podcast episode is a walk down memory lane with my two daughters and the beautiful beginning of our lives together.
Thank you to my daughters for helping your mother achieve the impossible goal of feeling joy again.
1:07 Remembering the Joy
1:39 My daughter, Phoebe’s, birthday
3:29 One of the beautiful moments in my life
5:28 Choosing our new daughter’s name
7:11 Bianca as a child
9:04 Meeting Phoebe for the first time
10:35 The memories
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To move past the miscommunication in your NeuroDivergent relationship, you must first eliminate your anger towards your partner and towards yourself. For this to happen, you need to understand that your NeuroDiverse loved one has a different operating system than you.
Join Dr. Kathy’s in today’s episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships to hear her share about her tools to achieve better communication in your relationship.
1:03 What’s the Point of Trying to communicate in a neurodivergent relationship?
1:32 What’s the goal of improving communication?
3:21 Use the 7-step interface protocol to eliminate your anger
4:41 Peel back the layers of disinformation and discontent
6:34 A dream that guided me
11:01 Stop holding yourself back
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Empathy is much more than sensitivity, much more than words. Join us for today’s podcast episode as Dr. Kathy discusses the 15 years of controversy she has faced since the first edition of her book, “Life with a Spouse or Partner with Asperger Syndrome—Going Over the Edge?” was published, and despite the controversy, how much this book has helped those in NeuroDiverse relationships.
1:05 Fifteen Years of Controversy
1:17 A Quote fron Lebron James
5:11 The truth has a way of being consistent
8:38 Use the diagnosis to light the way
13:01 Empathy is more than kind words
16:08 Polite and honest controversy leads to healing
20:19 Thank goodness for 15 years of controversy
Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”
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We can look at the communication between a ND and NT as a dance, except that each one is doing a completely different dance.
However, if we stay openminded and curious, we can start to understand the other person’s language a bit more each day.
Join us for this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships where Dr. Kathy breaks down how you can begin to rebuild the bridge in your NeuroDivergent Relationship through communication.
1:18 What is a dialectic?
2:52 Stay curious and openminded
4:31 Communication between ND and NT
5:40 Look at the problem from the dialectic
Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”
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In this 15-year Anniversary Edition, Dr. Marshack shares insights into the intricacies of a NeuroDiverse relationship through vivid storytelling. She offers tools and strategies on how to cope and reclaim your sanity as a NeuroTypical (NT) and survive in a NeuroDiverse relationship.
