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The Odd Couple – Why Aspies and Nurturers Attract Each Other
With deficiencies in critical areas, some have wondered how someone with “Asperger’s” develops an intimate relationship or even gets married.
Understanding Context Blindness
Context blindness is something that happens to people with “Asperger Syndrome”. For someone with “Asperger’s”, life is absolute – especially in regard to social interaction.
Why Are Those with Asperger’s Syndrome So Critical?
Have you noticed that those with Asperger’s Syndrome are very sensitive to receiving criticism? Often they hear criticism where none is implied.
Shaming in “Aspie”/NT Relationships
I define “Asperger Syndrome” as an empathy disorder and because of this lack of empathy, people on the spectrum are naturally blaming others for their troubles.
Learning to Communicate
Why Aspies Struggle with Apologies
It was just an honest mistake but your loved one with Asperger’s won’t accept your apology.
Can Autistics Tell Lies?
Without empathy, Autistics lie similarly to psychopaths, although Autistics don’t have the ruthless intent.
How to Speak to your Aspie so They Listen and Understand
You have to learn a new language…Aspergian.
How Not to Communicate with your ASD PartnerConnecting with your ASD loved one requires so much more than you realize. You will be frustrated if you use the standard approaches.
Challenges to Your ASD/NT Relationship
LOVE GONE BAD: A story of Autism, Narcissism and Parental Alienation
The book is based upon my life, and how I came to understand the interplay among autism, narcissism and parental alienation.
The Gaslighting Trap
Gaslighting is the phenomenon where your mind is attacked by your partner. Like brainwashing, gaslighting turns the victim into a helpless dish of mush if you don’t escape.
How Can You Tell if It’s Abuse or Asperger’s
As tough as it is to look at the issue of abuse, it’s important. We aren’t helping our Aspies when we allow them to be abusive.
The Silent Treatment – When Those with Asperger’s Shut You Out
The silent treatment is really a cruel form of abuse and it includes more, like ignoring and shunning, and treating you as if your opinion doesn’t count.
Asperger Syndrome and Codependency
As more adults are being diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome (AS), mental health professionals are learning that one of the most handicapping problems faced by these adults occurs in their interpersonal relationships.
Autistic MaskingJerome looked into the video camera and said, “Oh that’s what you call it — Masking? I know what that is. I remember deciding to Mask when I was four.” Jerome was matter of fact in this revelation, although it startled his wife.
Autism-Friendly Workplace: Can it be done or is this just pie in the sky?In honor of “Autism Awareness Month,” I think we should take a hard look at how impossible it is to make the world a better place for those with Autism Spectrum Disorder.
I Can’t Stand My SpouseCheryl has no contempt for her ASD spouse. Long ago she decided there was no hope for her NeuroDivergent relationship, but she has no desire to leave. She tells me “she sort of loves him. . . like a family member.”
Take Back Your Life
Divorce and Asperger Syndrome
So, what can you expect if you divorce an Asperger man? Unfortunately he will probably not understand why the woman wants a divorce and he is likely to be quite angry about it.
Fatigue Is Normal in ASD/NT Relationships
Emotional abuse, lack of respect for boundaries, no reciprocity, fighting for a scrap of time for yourself, and many more issues all lead to a constant state of fatigue.
“Take Responsibility for Your Actions”
How many of you heard these words as a child, or uttered them as a parent? Mom knew what she meant. You know what you mean. But does your ASD loved one?
Take Your Life PersonallyOnly a few days ago, I decided that I wanted to dedicate my new websites to people I love and who have inspired my work. Love is a guiding light that shows us the way to our authentic expression of Self.
Training Your Empathy Skills
Living with an “Aspie” Partner
Relationships are hard, in general. Throw out all empathy from one of the partners and you get a whole new mix. Understanding the Neurotypical – Asperger Relationship is difficult.
Empathy 101: Understanding the Neurotypical – Asperger Relationship
Empathy is a complex, multi-faceted skillset that allows a person to clearly recognize the other person, while holding constant their own feelings and thoughts.
Going Over the Edge? Protect Yourself from ASD Empathy Dysfunction
People with high functioning autism want to have loving relationships. It’s just very challenging for them and their partners when they can’t connect the dots.
Empathy: “Asperger’s” Style
Empathy is a tough concept to explain to Neuro-Typicals (NTs), and those on the Autism Spectrum alike. I have made several attempts to define and describe empathy in my books.