MEETUP VIDEO CONFERENCE: How to negotiate a fair deal with a win/lose “Aspie”
A free International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This Video Conference is only for members of Meetup. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.
Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: How to negotiate a fair deal with a win/lose “Aspie”
Thursday, March 26th at 1pm Pacific Time
I am bringing back video conferences to our Meetup group. I know you have missed them, and I am sorry for that. Now that things have settled back down to a dull roar, I think it’s time to reinvigorate our group with live video conferences.
The first one should be a topic near and dear to your heart. How on Earth do we negotiate a fair deal with our “Aspie” loved ones, when they are so focused on winning? We didn’t intend to start a debate when we asked a simple question. Yet all of a sudden we find ourselves defensively answering their questions. The goal of working out something relatively simple, has turned into a full blown argument.
The underlying reason for this “Aspie” behavior is an Empathy Dysfunction (EmD-0). While we are programmed to work with others, in order to keep the relationship healthy and loving — “Aspies” are on a much different track. They want to find the best answer to a problem and that comes from deductive reasoning. Think about it, if you are just trying to have a conversation, and they are on the path of solving a math problem — you lose. Conversations don’t solve math problems.
I’ll explain more on this call and I’d love to hear methods you have found that steer you away from these win/lose arguments.
The instructions for the Zoom call will be emailed to participants, once you have paid for the call. This call is for Meetup members and members of ASPERGER SYNDROME & Relationships (as long as you are also a member of Meetup). The fee is $18.95.
Pleased make sure you have a quiet, uninterrupted space to call in. Instructions on how to download Zoom can be found here: https://www.meetup.com/Asperger-Syndrome-Partners-Family-of-Adults-with-ASD/pages/19672892/Video_Conference_Meeting_Instructions/.
Meeting ID and password for each video conference will be emailed. Please check your Meetup settings to make sure you are able to receive emails.