About Dr. Marshack’s Blog

Dr. Marshack’s blog postings are short and timely. She shares tips that make your complex relationships work better. She also posts questions because she wants to hear from you and share ideas. Bringing people together to help each other is one of her missions.


Note: Some of the older blogs posts have been imported from a previous website and may have broken links. Try the “search” function in the sidebar to find linked pages that appear to be missing.

Time to Let My Grown Daughters Go

Time to Let My Grown Daughters Go

Time to Let My Grown Daughters Go

“It’s literally impossible to be a woman…”

Join us for today’s episode as Dr. Kathy speaks about her experience with parental alienation and gives tips to those who might also be struggling with it.


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1:38 This episode is for mothers
3:54 My experience as a target of parental alienation by my former spouse
5:48 Parental alienation is a trauma for all involved
8:43 I did escape, but not with my children
10:26 Never forget that the system is rigged
11:48 Step out of your fear and soar
15:30 Be a proud mother
17:38 Gloria’s monologue from the Barbie movie


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

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➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Tiny Steps to Love; 7 Step Interface Protocol

Tiny Steps to Love; 7 Step Interface Protocol

Tiny Steps to Love; 7 Step Interface Protocol

When you learn to use the 7 Step Interface Protocol, you can learn to rebuild trust and communication within your NeuroDivergent relationship.

Join us for today’s episode as Dr. Kathy walks us through her 7 Step Interface Protocol.


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1:40 7 Step Interface Protocol
6:35 Step One
8:01 Step Two
9:06 Step Three
11:47 Step Four
13:31 Step Five
14:42 Step Six
17:24 Step Seven
19:41 A Little Story


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

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➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Prologue to the Anniversary Edition; Is This My Story?

Prologue to the Anniversary Edition; Is This My Story?

Prologue to the Anniversary Edition; Is This My Story?

You can do better than survive the trauma, and you can do better than conquer your grief, fury, and underlying fear. You can actually fly up out of that title wave that has destroyed your life & create a far shinier, more pure vision of yourself. YOU are a gift.

Join us today as Dr. Kathy reads from the prologue of her brand new Anniversary Edition of “Going Over the Edge?”


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1:01 Prologue to the Anniversary Edition
2:02 One of my first bits of feedback for the book
3:23 What is a Palm Pilot?
5:37 Lexicon of terms
7:19 Terms to get you started
8:23 The internet gave me a platform
11:17 Opening up about my personal trauma in a ND family
13:00 Beyond grief and fury, there is fear
18:06 My daughter’s contributions to this book
19:18 You can do better than survive the trauma
23:36 Recovery from abuse
25:10 Love is the only answer


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Instead of Anger, Do a Little Good

Instead of Anger, Do a Little Good

Instead of Anger, Do a Little Good

Join us for today’s episode as Dr. Kathy delves into her past to give us perspective on how anger effects us, especially in NeuroDivergent relationships.

Listen as Dr. Kathy speaks about how anger is a perfectly normal, human reaction especially when you’re being harmed, but that anger should only be a wakeup call; it’s not meant to hang around for years.


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:02 Instead of anger, do a little good
1:26 why no one believes you have PTSD
3:56 it’s no use getting drawn into the battle with a narcissist
7:30 anger is a normal reaction
10:34 sometimes anger is there to tell you that you’re in danger


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Autism is a Primary Diagnosis

Autism is a Primary Diagnosis

Autism is a Primary Diagnosis

Autism isn’t the problem; the problem is the colliding systems of the NeuroDivergent and NeuroTypical.

Join us today as Dr. Kathy discusses why it’s vital to have an Autism diagnosis first before you can begin working towards resolutions for NeuroDivergent families or couples.


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:06 Why an Autism diagnoses is needed
2:30 the Autism isn’t the problem
3:16 Anecdote on a course member
5:17 Both sides (ND and NT) have to step into the solution
7:47 NeuroDivergence defined (by me)
9:32 How the diagnosis creates a new playing field
11:36 Diagnosis is only the beginning


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

What Does NeuroDivergence Really Mean?

What Does NeuroDivergence Really Mean?

What Does NeuroDivergence Really Mean?

Join us today as Dr. Kathy speaks about:

  • The colliding worlds of the NeuroDiverse and NeuroTypical
  • The differing operating systems of NeuroDiverse and NeuroTypical
  • The underlying cause of the conflict between these two


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:01 How to actually understand the language used in the field of NeuroDivergent relationships
2:12 Interacting Systems
3:39 How I refer to individuals on the Spectrum
4:00 What causes these conflicts?


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

The Map of Empathy Territory

The Map of Empathy Territory

The Map of Empathy Territory

Join us today as Dr. Kathy breaks down both the 7 Step Interface Protocol and the Map of Empathy Territory, both detailed in her book, “Empathy is More Than Words.”

She discusses how she created the Map of Empathy Territory to help you navigate a world where empathy is more than words. She also details how the 7 Step Interface Protocol was created to help NeuroTypicals to learn the language of the NeuroDiverse.


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:06 What is Empathy Territory
2:31 A Comment on One of My Blog Posts
5:00 An Overview of Empathy Territory
5:49 A Piece I Realized Was Missing from My Book
8:56 One Incredible Revelation
9:56 I Created a Map
12:01 Breaking Down The 7 Step Interface Protocol
17:48 The Inspiration Behind the 7 Step Protocol
19:03 Breaking Down the Map of Empathy Territory
23:24 Defining Radiant Empathy
24:06 The Empathy Dysfunction Scale
27:33 You Are Enough


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

‘Asperger Syndrome’: What’s in a name?

'Asperger Syndrome': What's in a name?

'Asperger Syndrome': What's in a name?

What IS in a name? People have been using the term ‘Aspergers’ for a long time – even though it’s not the correct term professionally or clinically.

Join us today as Dr. Kathy discusses where the term ‘Aspergers’ originally came from and the dark backstory surrounding it that was recently discovered.


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:26 Identifying Aspergers Syndrome
3:07 Using the term Aspergers Syndrome
6:01 The Drawing
10:29 How we Come to Know Ourselves Through the Complexities of Relationships Between NT’s and ND’s
10:56 The Story of Dr. Hans Asperger
13:40 Using the term ‘NeuroDiverse’ instead of ‘Asperger’ for this podcast


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Empathy is More Than Words

Empathy is More Than Words

Empathy is More Than Words

Once you understand empathy, you have a better chance of resolving problems in your NeuroDivergent relationship. 


Join us for today’s episode where Dr. Kathy delves into the characteristics of both the Empathy Triad-Sensitive person and the Empathy Triad-Blind person.


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:02 Defining Empathy
1:47 The Empathy triad-sensitive person (the NeuroTypical)
7:31 Client Story
9:59 The Empathy Triad-blind person (the NeuroDiverse)


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Isolated and Alone: Being Frozen Out of Life Within a NeuroDivergent Relationship

Isolated and Alone: Being Frozen Out of Life Within a NeuroDivergent Relationship

Isolated and Alone: Being Frozen Out of Life Within a NeuroDivergent Relationship

This episode is a special Fathers’ Day message where Dr. Kathy speaks about the similarities she and her dad share having had to navigate a marriage with a spouse on the spectrum.

Join us for today’s episode as Dr. Kathy discusses what it’s like being the NeuroTypical family member who no one understands.


Want to skip ahead? Episode Highlights

1:02 Fathers’ Day Message: On Being Frozen Out of Life
4:51 A realization and an existential dilemma
7:10 What goes on in the chaos of a NeuroDivergent relationship


Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

➡️ Follow Dr. Kathy on Facebook

➡️ Find Dr. Kathy’s Website Here

➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course