Author: Kathy Marshack

It requires Empathy to take responsibility for your actions, and many NeuroDiverse people assume all is well just because they meant well.

Awarness can be a start BUT there is no substitute to being able to rise above one’s own feelings and really listen to the heart of another person.

Join Dr. Kathy in this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships where she dives into the topic, “Why is it so Hard for my ASD Partner to Take Responsibility for Their Actions?

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1:01 Why is it so Hard for my ASD Partner to Take Responsibility for Their Actions?
2:54 Anticipate How Others Will Feel
5:37 When You’re Just Trying to Connect
6:25 Can Awareness Substitute for Empathy?
7:29 A Response to a Blog of Mine, “Empathy, ‘Asperger’ Style”
8:47 Taking Responsibility for Your Actions is a Moral Choice

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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The brainwashing of Autistic abuse sneaks up on you, and once you tolerate even one act of terror, you adapt to the abuse and there’s little left of you to defend.

Join us in this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships as Dr. Kathy discusses the trauma induced by Autistic abuse and how to overcome it.

It may sound off, but being a proud trauma survivor is what saves you from the ravages of Autistic abuse and its aftermath – PTSD.

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1:05 Autistic Abuse: The Trauma Induced by Autistic Meltdowns
1:19 A Quote From Maya Angelou
2:19 Feeling the Grief Again
4:36 Trapped by Brainwashing
7:08 Chronic Intermittent Abuse
8:18 What are the Right Questions to Ask?
10:59 Autists Must Confront Their Dark Side
16:29 Be a Proud Trauma Survivor
18:07 PTSD is a Normal Reaction to This Abuse

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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In this episode entitled, “Part 2 of The Dark Side of ‘Asperger’s,’” I’m addressing the difficulty that people have talking about this problem.

No matter whether you’re NeuroDiverse or NeuroTypical, let’s talk about how to break free from the “shadow” and step outside of shame. Because you must first call attention to the problem before you can find a solution.

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1:02 Part 2 of the dark side of “Asperger’s” – addressing the difficulty people have talking about this problem
1:54 A quote about the shadow self
2:40 Breaking free from the shadow
6:01 Enlightening webinars
7:51 How to step outside of the shame

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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Not all NeuroDivergent Relationships are destructive, but in my personal experience, there’s a high percentage of destructive interactions that take place.

But, if you have Radiant Empathy and a strong moral code, you can stand up for yourself without harming others.

Join me for this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships entitled, “The Dark Side of “Asperger’s,” and we’ll talk about how to cope.

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1:00 The dark side of Asperger’s
1:23 Moving on is not the answer
3:04 How to cope: develop radiant empathy and have a strong moral code
4:12 A quote from Sun Tzu, a famous Chinese author
4:51 It takes courage to do the right thing
5:18 I had a warning in a dream
11:52 I will never be able to move on
12:20 I can take heart in helping others in ND Relationships
14:07 Stand up, speak out, and talk back

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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This podcast episode is a walk down memory lane with my two daughters and the beautiful beginning of our lives together.

Thank you to my daughters for helping your mother achieve the impossible goal of feeling joy again.

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1:07 Remembering the Joy
1:39 My daughter, Phoebe’s, birthday
3:29 One of the beautiful moments in my life
5:28 Choosing our new daughter’s name
7:11 Bianca as a child
9:04 Meeting Phoebe for the first time
10:35 The memories

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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To move past the miscommunication in your NeuroDivergent relationship, you must first eliminate your anger towards your partner and towards yourself. For this to happen, you need to understand that your NeuroDiverse loved one has a different operating system than you.

Join Dr. Kathy’s in today’s episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships to hear her share about her tools to achieve better communication in your relationship.

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1:03 What’s the Point of Trying to communicate in a neurodivergent relationship?
1:32 What’s the goal of improving communication?
3:21 Use the 7-step interface protocol to eliminate your anger
4:41 Peel back the layers of disinformation and discontent
6:34 A dream that guided me
11:01 Stop holding yourself back

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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Empathy is much more than sensitivity, much more than words. Join us for today’s podcast episode as Dr. Kathy discusses the 15 years of controversy she has faced since the first edition of her book, “Life with a Spouse or Partner with Asperger Syndrome—Going Over the Edge?” was published, and despite the controversy, how much this book has helped those in NeuroDiverse relationships.

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1:05 Fifteen Years of Controversy
1:17 A Quote fron Lebron James
5:11 The truth has a way of being consistent
8:38 Use the diagnosis to light the way
13:01 Empathy is more than kind words
16:08 Polite and honest controversy leads to healing
20:19 Thank goodness for 15 years of controversy

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

We can look at the communication between a ND and NT as a dance, except that each one is doing a completely different dance.

However, if we stay openminded and curious, we can start to understand the other person’s language a bit more each day.

Join us for this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships where Dr. Kathy breaks down how you can begin to rebuild the bridge in your NeuroDivergent Relationship through communication.

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1:18 What is a dialectic?
2:52 Stay curious and openminded
4:31 Communication between ND and NT
5:40 Look at the problem from the dialectic

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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Alice Walker wrote, “Healing begins where the wound was made.” Even in your grief, remember that Love is your super power.

Join us for this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships where Dr. Kathy recalls the story of how her and her ex-husband met and delves into the intricacies of their relationship and everything she’s learned from the experience.

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1:19 Love in an antidote to terror
2:45 Falling in Love with Howard
8:23 Sweet moments – few and far between
11:40 The children drove us apart
14:29 Love is a conversation, not a transaction
17:16 I failed Howard
22:05 Healing the wound

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome (ASD): Going over the Edge? Anniversary Edition”

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➡️If you’re looking for resources for NeuroDivergent relationships, check out Dr. Kathy’s FREE Mini-Course

Being empathic isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be unless you can learn to be brave.

If you don’t use empathy to make things better then it becomes empathy dysfunction. You have to train yourself to always show up!

Join us for this episode of NeuroDivergent Relationships where Dr. Kathy discusses the different sides of the Map of Empathy Territory and how you can bridge that gap.

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1:02 It takes courage to be empathic
2:29 Looking into my map of empathy territory
7:41 The 7 step interface protocol can bridge the gap between empathy triad sensitive and empathy triad blind
9:39 What is a radiant empathy angel
12:06 The Jewish Pilgrimage and the lessons we can learn from it
18:04 Make the world a better place by showing up

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Check out Dr. Kathy’s latest book, “Empathy is More Than Words: Introducing Groundbreaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships” 

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