Discover how to effectively communicate in NeuroDvergent relationships and plan for a fulfilling new year.

This video explores the challenges faced by NeuroTypical partners of NeuroDiverse individuals, specifically in planning and communication. Key insights include understanding feelings of blame and shame, the impact of silent treatments, and strategies to address feelings of invisibility in relationships. Viewers will gain valuable advice on creating an interface protocol to enhance communication and cooperation. With unique perspectives on managing expectations and fostering understanding, this content is essential for anyone navigating a NeuroDivergent relatioonship.

While Dr. Kathy's office hours are on a public forum, if you would like to join us in a private discussion, check out our offerings at:

– Resources for NeuroDivergent Relationships page: https://drkathylearningcenter.thinkific.com/courses/resources-for-neurodivergent-relationships

– Meetup group here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd

Timestamps
0:00 – Introduction to Planning for the Year Ahead
3:06 – How to Manage the Silent Treatment
9:06 – Understanding Blame and Shame
12:03 – Strategies to Overcome Communication Barriers
21:37 – Techniques for Effective Planning
24:44 – Importance of Setting Realistic Expectations
27:14 – Tips for Collaborative Planning
38:16 – Recognizing Neurodiverse Challenges
39:39 – Implementing New Patterns and Workarounds

About this video
Navigating Neurodivergent Relationships: Strategies for Success

Navigating the complexities of NeuroDivergent relationships can be challenging, particularly for NeuroTypical partners who may not fully understand the unique dynamics involved. As we embark on a new year, it is essential to reflect on effective ways to enhance communication, foster understanding, and strengthen bonds with NeuroDiverse loved ones. This post will discuss key strategies for creating healthier, more harmonious relationships while acknowledging the differences in operating systems between NeuroTypicals and NeuroDiverse individuals.

Understanding Different Operating Systems

In relationships where one partner is NeuroDiverse, particularly those on the autism spectrum, it is crucial to recognize that both partners operate from distinct frameworks. NeuroTypicals typically possess a well-established sense of empathy that allows them to navigate social situations with relative ease. In contrast, NeuroDiverse individuals may experience challenges such as alexithymia and context blindness, making social cues and emotional subtleties more difficult to decipher. This disconnect can lead to frustration and feelings of isolation for both parties.

Creating mutual understanding begins with acknowledging these differences. NeuroTypicals should strive to communicate clearly and provide concrete information, as NeuroDiverse individuals often benefit from explicit instructions rather than vague suggestions. For instance, when planning events or discussing future activities, it is essential to provide clear choices rather than expecting a back-and-forth discussion that may confuse a NeuroDiverse partner.

In this Facebook Live, we’ll talk about how to keep your sanity through the holiday madness around your super sensitive “Aspies”. We’ll talk about micro-aggressions and how that makes us feel minimized and demoralized.
We’ll talk about how to make empathy your superpower by growing into a Radiant Empathy Angel. It truly is the only answer to managing the madness and stress of our NeuroDivergent relationships.

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

If you have technical questions about using MeetUp, check our Guide to MeetUp here: https://asd-ntrelationships.com/guide-to-meetup/

In this Facebook live we’ll talk about empathy and how to make Radiant Empathy your superpower. We’ll talk about how fear can crush your empathy and how to rise above the fear. We’ll talk about the misery of knowing what you know and how to break through that barrier.

We’ll talk about how it takes courage to be a Radiant Empathy Angel and see if you have what it takes.

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

If you have technical questions about using MeetUp, check our Guide to MeetUp here: https://asd-ntrelationships.com/guide-to-meetup/

We have over 10 years of questions from members answered here.

In this Facebook Live we’ll talk about how you feel so betrayed by those you love – and how to take back your life.

We’ll talk about the despair of being misunderstood. We’ll talk about the meltdowns, the silent treatment and how to find better ways to cope.

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

If you have technical questions about using MeetUp, check our Guide to MeetUp here: https://asd-ntrelationships.com/guide-to-meetup/

We have over 10 years of questions from members answered here.

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We’ll talk about why your “Aspie” won’t meet you halfway and how empathy plays into that. We’ll talk about how your partner says he hears you – but doesn’t really understand what you are saying.

We’ll talk about how to negotiate a fair deal with your “Aspie’s Win/Lose transactional thinking. And why it seems that your “Aspie” doesn’t listen – until you are angry and yell.

I can’t emphasize enough that the only way to break through those infuriating communication missteps you have with your ASD love one is through the 7-Step Interface Protocol.

Yes, there are terrific communication tools that you have learned in therapy or perhaps a class on relationship building. But none of those tools work until you recognize NeuroDivergent relationships require something extra.

That something extra is the 7-Step Interface Protocol, which I describe in my book “Empathy is More Than Words,” (available on Amazon). I also walk you through the 7-Steps in my online course.

I’ll give you the Cliff Notes in this teleconference, so be prepared to take notes and ask lots of questions. I want you to get it!

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

If you have technical questions about using MeetUp, check our Guide to MeetUp here: https://asd-ntrelationships.com/guide-to-meetup/

n this Facebook Live, we'll talk about why our “Aspies” don’t seem to get us, see us, or hear us. We’ll discuss ways to keep a healthy sense of self, even if your NeuroDiverse loved ones listen to the words, not to you.

We’ll talk about how love is to know you Intimately, not just your words. We’ll discuss how to keep yourself solid when you have to deal with an Empathy Triad Blind partner. Keeping yourself solid is important to keep your love alive.

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

If you have technical questions about using MeetUp, check our Guide to MeetUp here: https://asd-ntrelationships.com/guide-to-meetup/

We have over 10 years of questions from members answered here.

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In this Facebook Live, we'll talk about why we get so angry with our “Aspies” at times. We’ll also discuss some new ways to reduce your anger with your “Aspies” — maybe even rise above it.

We’ll talk about why “Aspies” don’t get ‘chit-chat,’ and how sometimes it feels empty when we talk with our Aspies because of their lack of empathy. We’ll learn more about this phenomenon and how to work around it

We’ll talk about “Love Languages” and how maybe you’ve noticed they don’t apply to your “Aspie,” and your NeuroDivergent relationship. We will discuss ways to find new methods to create and communicate love with our NeuroDiverse partners.

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

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Let's gather together to discuss how you feel about this conundrum and what to do about it. I'm not saying that we can really find our way back to normal. That ship has sailed. But perhaps we can create a new normal for ourselves; a normal that helps us stay healthy and loving and mentally centered. . . amid the chaos of living with those on the Autism Spectrum.

We’ll talk about the effects of feeling invisible – and so very alone. It is especially hard during the holiday season, isn’t it?

We’ll talk about how explaining and complaining – as the natural way to communicate – doesn’t work within our NeuroDivergent relationships.

At this Facebook Live, I'm also announcing our MeetUp conferences for next month. If you want to see and register for our events ahead of time, you can do it here: https://www.meetup.com/asperger-syndrome-partners-family-of-adults-with-asd/events/

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